vulnerability and self-criticism time
open secret i actually hate 97% of the things people associate with bdsm
if you are not willing to do some serious soul-searching about your kinky self, which is legitimate, don’t click this
also if you’re not prepared to potentially really change how you see me/this blog, don’t click this
just scroll on and happy fapping
Ngl, I’m actually really glad this post exists, just as I am glad that the blog as a whole exists and provides the occasional dose of information along with all those wonderful pictures.
I’m fairly mentally fried at the moment from a long day on campus, so if this rambles and repeats a bit in places…that’s why. Anyway, I think it’s a step towards better understanding yourself as a whole to actually look at why you’re turned on by the things that turn you on. (I’m using “you” here in the general context.) Nobody else can do that for you but you. Others can help you come to whatever conclusion you make or they can offer a guess, but at the end of the day, that’s all it is.
Sometimes it seems like, in the great movement towards sex positivity, the notion of questioning your preference(s) is discouraged or at least not wholly held up as a thing that you shouldn’t really spend much time doing. But like…you do have to question it sometimes. And not just question it; sometimes you really do need to sit down and dissect the hows and whys of your preferences. Rather, you should! And not just one time but several, over the course of your lifetime, as you shift and change with your experiences and with what you learn (provided you remain open to educating yourself, as you should). Because if you don’t ask questions, how are you supposed to grow and develop as a person? It’s a scary process, sure, but the payoff is more often worth it than not.
And there was more I wanted to say, but the thinky part of my brain appears to have fallen asleep on me. /o\
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